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This Just In

The moment your wife
first notices the gray
hair winding from your chest
will not be breaking news.
Its coming will have been
foretold by nothing so brash
as a star rising in the east;
rather an inexplicable twinge
or colonoscopy or acute interest
in biographies of the dead.

Even so you will have long
ago negotiated an amicable if
not peaceful telomeric armistice.
Latecomer to the front — major
networks returned to regularly
scheduled programming, cables
wound, corpses buried and cold —
she gestures in earnest sympathy,
‘Here was strength. There was
joy.’

‘I will tell your story.’

* Stand if you are able.

My grandmother would make them,
large-knit in green, red, and white:
thick cables of yarn as cylindrical
camouflage for rolls of toilet paper, or
insulation against pots of chicken and dumplings.

Her shawl reminded me of these,
though white and splotched with dollops of
yellow surrounded by petaled pink and blue.
She wore it each week,
rain or shine, Epiphany or Lent.

(Truth be told, the church can be cold.)

She arrived, shuffling; sat, shuddering,
and her son helped her, lowered her, down.
She stayed, bent, forward over her hands
as we stood shaking hands and sharing peace.

The asterisk asked her to
* Stand if you are able.
Not a command of passive-aggressive guilt, but
suggestion and instruction. A lesson
in humility for those who don’t know or have forgotten:
in worship, in respect, in joy, we stand.

And each week she stood,
rain or shine, Advent or Easter.
Fingers curled and gripping the pew;
not pushed but pulled, drawn, and called
to her feet with patience,
without hesitation.

Her son’s hands holding the hymnal.